The Real Reason You’re Not Seeing Relief from Your Perimenopause Symptoms (And What to Do Instead)
You’re doing all the things.
Talking to friends.
Googling symptoms.
Trying the latest tips you saw on Instagram.
And yet… you’re still not feeling better.
If anything, you might be feeling even more overwhelmed, anxious, and unsure of what to try next.
Sound familiar?
If so, you’re not alone, and you’re not doing anything wrong!
You’ve just been trying to navigate the ups and downs of perimenopause without a plan. And that one piece, a simple, clear, and focused plan, could change everything.
In this post, I’ll show you how to stop spinning in circles, take a breath, and finally create a path forward. One that’s designed around your body, your real symptoms, and your already full life.
Ready to feel more in control and actually see results?
Let’s dive in.
Why “Trying Everything” Is Actually Slowing You Down
Let’s get something out of the way first: this isn’t your fault.
There’s no clear roadmap for navigating perimenopause.
Most women I talk to say they weren’t even sure what was happening at first.
Mood swings. Brain fog. Weight gain. Sleep issues. Anxiety.
You name it, and you’ve probably felt it.
But when the symptoms started stacking up, the reaction was probably to start reacting to each new issue as it popped up:
Googling what to eat for hormone balance
Buying supplements that promised more energy
Trying to overhaul your workouts, your sleep, and your diet… all at once! 🤯
And honestly? Who wouldn’t do that when you’re desperate for relief?
The problem is, this approach leads to even more overwhelm.
It’s exhausting to jump from one idea to the next, especially when nothing seems to stick long enough to make a difference.
Here’s what’s actually happening when you don’t have a plan:
1. You stay stuck in a loop of overwhelm
Perimenopause is already a rollercoaster. Add in information overload and a few late-night “what’s happening to me?” searches… and it becomes impossible to know where to start.
Without clarity or structure, it feels like everything needs fixing at once. So naturally, you either try to do too much or shut down and do nothing. Neither path helps.
2. You end up trying to “fix” everything all at once
Maybe you decide: This is it. I’m going all in.
You change your eating habits, start a new fitness plan, commit to better sleep… and a week later, you're burned out and wondering why nothing is working.
It’s not that you lack discipline, it’s that it’s unrealistic (and unnecessary) to try to do it all at once. Especially when you’re juggling work, family, aging parents, and the rest of real life.
3. You never really know what’s working
When you’re jumping from one idea to the next, it’s hard to know what’s actually helping…and what’s not.
Instead of seeing meaningful progress, you end up in a frustrating cycle of start-stop, full of half-finished attempts and zero results.
So what should you do instead?
It’s Time to Create a Plan That Works With You, Not Against You
Here’s the truth: you don’t need to do more.
You just need a better way to focus your energy and track what’s really going on.
Here’s how I help my clients approach it, and how you can start shifting into a more supportive plan today:
Step 1: Start with a Symptom Journal
Instead of reacting to every new symptom as it shows up, start observing.
Get a journal (a simple notebook works just fine) and begin writing down:
What symptoms are you feeling?
When do they tend to show up?
What else is going on when they happen - emotionally, physically, even socially?
This small daily habit can help you recognize patterns, so you’re not just chasing symptoms but starting to understand them. It also helps separate what’s random from what’s recurring and that’s powerful.
Step 2: Use the Patterns to Create a Plan
Once you start to see what’s happening more clearly, it’s much easier to focus.
For example:
If you notice anxiety spikes around your cycle, you can plan ahead for those days.
If sleep issues are consistent, you can target that area first.
If food seems to be triggering bloating or mood swings, that becomes a priority to explore.
This is when you shift from reacting to responding, with intention.
Instead of “trying everything,” you’re picking the most important thing to focus on first. And that’s where the results come from.
How I Help You Build This Inside Reset to Radiate
Inside my Reset to Radiate program, we slow things way down - in the best possible way.
Together, we look at:
What symptoms you’re experiencing
How they’re showing up for you
What’s impacting your mood, sleep, energy, weight, digestion, and more
From there, we co-create a personalized plan to help you manage those symptoms in a way that fits into your current lifestyle.
We also take into account what stage of perimenopause you’re in, how your body is changing, and what feels manageable to work on right now.
You’ll feel supported, seen, and empowered with accountability to keep going, even when your energy and motivation dips (which happens, especially in this season).
“But what if my symptoms are all over the place? How do I know what to focus on?”
This is such a great question, and one I hear often.
Here’s the thing:
That’s exactly why we start with observation.
It can feel like everything is happening at once. But when you step back, track it, and give it time, the patterns become more clear.
That’s where the plan comes in - not to fix everything, but to help you decide what matters most right now, and what you can realistically work on.
And when you start there, things begin to shift - quickly!
You’re Not Failing, You Just Need a Focus
If you’ve been feeling stuck, scattered, or like nothing you try is working, it’s not a sign you’re doing something wrong.
It’s just a sign that you’ve been trying to navigate a big change without the support and structure that makes it easier.
You deserve to feel better. To stop guessing. To stop googling. And to start feeling more calm, clear, and in control of this chapter.
Book a free consultation today to talk about where you’re at with your perimenopause journey and whether the support of personalized coaching is the right next step for you.
Together, we’ll get you out of overwhelm and into a plan that works.
You don’t have to do this alone - and you don’t have to keep trying everything. Let’s make a plan that works for you! 😮💨